(,) vs (...)

Daughter #1 has been writing. She says she is writing a book. She is on page 75. Daughter #1 thinks that she is some kind of aficionado on writing skills. (har har har)! I've read what she writes and while for a fifteen year old she does very well, her spelling is atrocious and her punctuation is even worse. So I found it rather hilarious when she came along yesterday and had a look over my shoulder at what I happened to be writing at the time and gave me a few hints.  I admit, I am not the best writer in the world and there is a lot for me to learn. I find that keeping this blog really helps me learn more about writing.  My sentence structure leaves a lot to be desired and God knows my spelling is periodically pathetic, still I had to laugh when Daughter #1 said that I should stop using so many (...) and put in (,)  instead. I turned my head and gave her a look that must have said, "Who the heck are you to be criticizing your elders?" (Take note, I said "elders" and not "betters"). She then told me that (...) has a tendency to make me seem like I fell asleep mid sentence.  My reaction went something like this: "!!!!????"

You see it had never occurred to me that (...) would appear to make me look older. Falling asleep mid sentence is something that people who hardly know if their in the world or out do.  I think of myself as fairly alert... I don't have Narcolepsy or anything. I always considered (...) to be a pause in thinking with a slight change of direction in thinking too. So I had a think about this off and on all day... as a matter of a fact, I had a think about it a lot even at night which means, that I over slept this morning and had a big rush job getting breakfast on the table for Teapot and the girls.  I think what is happening is that I have now become so fast at typing that (...) is an opportunity for my brain to catch up with my hands. I know that makes me sound like I type really fast... but generally, I don't type fast, especially when it comes to copying text.  When I am typing my thoughts, my typing skills over the last 8 years, since we purchased our first computer, has gotten faster than my hand writing. That means that lots of times I'm not thinking about my hands at all, just typing the thoughts as they come to me.  (...) gives my brain a chance to catch up.

Daughter #1 also said that (...) might make me sound like I forgot what I was about to say.  This too seems to make me sound like I'm incoherent. I totally disagree with that. (...) is a way of pausing and turning ones sentence slightly. (,) gives the writer a natural pause in a sentence and doesn't change the direction of the sentence at all... but (...) changes the direction of the sentence and gives the reader an indication that a new idea is forming as a result of the previous one.

For example...
I always thought that my Daughters would love me and give me respect... but I now realize that all Daughters are put on the face of the earth to challenge you and make you wonder if you are a nutcase.

The (...) turns the sentence and gives the reader an indication that the result of the sentence is changing somehow.  This is different from the (,). The (,) is used thus:

Daughter #1 challenged my brain today, by suggesting that I might be using punctuation in a particularly wrong way.

So you be the judge... Do I use (...) wrongly or does it add to my writing in a uniquely helpful way?

I bow to the force of popular culture... (,) vs (...)!